One More Post About Resolutions

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2015 saw the rise of the phrase, “The struggle is real,” but news flash, the struggle has always been real! Your struggle, my struggle, all the varying degrees of struggle, they’re all very real to each of us. Aren’t they?!

So, what is the hope for 2016? Are you making a list of resolutions vaguely exactly like the one you made last year? Are you having the nagging sense of déjà vu when think about your hopes and aspirations for the upcoming 365 days? No worries. You’re in good company. Looking back at what my resolutions were for 2015 and where I am now, sadly, little has changed. But I’m not going to freak out about it. I’m not going to let myself go into depression mode over all of the things that I should have done or how far I would have come if I’d followed through. There’s no sense in beating myself up now.

Instead, I’m optimistically looking forward to 2016. I’m looking at resolutions differently this year. Instead of a laundry list of things I want to accomplish, change, or do in the coming year, I’m asking myself a single question:

What do I want from 2016?

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Like every New Year, there are things I want to accomplish. To lose weight and be healthier, to finish my degree, to travel more etc. But shouldn’t resolution’s be more than just the same old laundry list of things to do?

It occurred to me that maybe the reason it’s so difficult to follow through on New Year’s resolutions is because, more often than not, they have a tendency to become just another nagging list. Where’s the fun in that?

So, this year I’m not making a laundry list. This year, I’m not looking at all the bad habits that could be, should be, better. For once, I’m not going to look at things in a negative light. Instead, I’m looking at what I want more of.

More fun!

More love!

More friends!

What do you want more of for 2016? Change your perspective. Alter your view and find what you want to gain from 2016!

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Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas

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I hope you’re all having a wonderful and merry Christmas (or whatever you celebrate). I hope your day is peaceful, joyous and bright.

I hope you surround yourself with loved ones who appreciate you and cherish you.

I hope you remember to breathe throughout the day and know that even if family anxiety strikes, it’s fleeting and nothing is as serious as it seems when you’re caught in the middle of the whirlwind. Breathe.

I hope you find reasons to smile, because in the end, it’s just another day and we have a lot to be thankful for.

Happy Christmas,

Nikki

I’ll Have A Blue Christmas Without You

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I’m beginning to come to the conclusion that Christmas is only a magical, wonderful and special time for the kiddies. The older I get, the more disconnect I feel during this time of year. Maybe I’m not spreading enough holiday cheer. Maybe I’m not watching enough Christmas movies on Hallmark or going out to enough holiday social events. At any rate, it just doesn’t feel like Christmas to me.

The biggest thing missing from this Christmas, is my grandmother. This will be my first Christmas without her, in all my 27 years, and it’s just not going to be the same. In truth, I’m not looking forward to Christmas Day and could have easily skipped the entire holiday season this year.

So, what do you do when you’re just not feeling very merry and bright? You do the best you can. I’m going to make the best out of what I have and be thankful for my family and friends. I’m going to try my darndest to not dwell on all the reasons why I should and could be sad. I’m going to listen to my body and realize that, even though I’ll be trying to make the most of everything, I still have limits and there will still be sadness and grief and that’s OK.

I’m going to step out of character and, for once, not expect the worst. Any troubles that come, I’m going brush them aside, take a deep breath and move on. I’m not sure why, but we’re programmed to expect the most amazing of days on holidays when, more often than not, they’re the most stressful and chaotic of all days.

It’s OK if your weekend isn’t perfect. Do your best and that’s all that anyone can expect of you. Wake up and find something to be excited about, or something you’re thankful for. And when it all becomes too much, just take a breath and let it go.

 

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Grandma Got Run Over By A Reindeer – And Other Nonsense

Have you ever noticed that, despite the fact that the holiday’s are supposed to be about being with the ones you love, and being jolly, and joyous, they rarely ever are?

It’s not just me, right?

Good!

Just in case it’s nearing the time to hit the panic button because you haven’t finished your Christmas shopping. Or the gifts haven’t arrived yet, or any other alcohol inducing stressor that might be careening your way, here’s some holiday humor to give you a moment of reprieve.